Self-Care Pressure

It's Self-Care Week, and I've been reflecting on what the term “self-care” means to me. As a massage therapist, I’m proud to help others facilitate their own self-care. But I’ve come to realize that the work I do is just as important as the care I give myself. Self-care is essential, not just for my clients, but for me as a practitioner as well.

In my line of work, it’s easy to focus entirely on others—on listening to their bodies and helping them recover—but self-care isn’t a one-size-fits-all concept. It’s a fluid practice that changes depending on our energy levels, emotional state, and physical well-being. Some days, self-care might mean something as simple as making sure I get out of bed, shower, and take a moment to breathe. Those days when energy feels low or the body is tired, self-care is about giving myself permission to rest without guilt.

Other days, self-care means pushing my body in a more active way—getting a great workout, going for a walk, or practicing yoga. On those days, it’s about feeling invigorated and replenished. But the key here is to honor my body’s needs each day and find balance in the approach.

Beyond these day-to-day practices, self-care starts from the inside. Staying hydrated, eating nutritious foods, and taking the time to check in with my health through regular doctor’s appointments or wellness routines are just as important. I’ve learned that taking care of my physical health directly impacts my energy and ability to show up for others.

However, I think it’s just as important to note that self-care can sometimes feel like pressure. There's this overwhelming expectation that we need to do it “right,” whether that’s committing to long workouts, elaborate spa routines, or other grand gestures. But it’s essential to recognize the value of self-care without adding pressure to your psyche. Making time for yourself doesn’t always have to be a big event; sometimes it’s as small as a few minutes of deep breathing or a short break in the middle of a busy day. No matter the size, self-care should always feel nourishing and positive.

So, give yourself grace. Life is demanding, and sometimes the most important form of self-care is simply acknowledging that you’re doing your best. The little moments matter, too.

Massage therapy is a demanding profession, requiring both physical and emotional energy. Being present for my clients—listening to their needs, supporting their healing process—takes a lot out of me. And because of that, it’s crucial to remember that self-care is not selfish; it's a necessity for my own well-being and for the quality of care I provide to others. When I take care of myself, I am better equipped to show up fully for my clients and continue the work I love.

For my fellow therapists, and for anyone in a caregiving role, I encourage you to listen to your body and mind. Self-care isn’t about being perfect every day; it’s about being compassionate with yourself and finding what works for you in the moment. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.